As much as it would be amazing, we mostly don’t live in tribes. Where we can breastfeed for as long as possible because our friends could take over and we could rest.
Or where our older children can just run free, safely, outside together all day. Where there is no pressure to earn money money, money. Just working to eat and being happy with that because we dont know any different.
The reality is so so many women, after becoming mothers have felt this immense pressure to do what is ‘somebody’ says ‘is the right thing’ when it comes to parenting. From the second we give birth if we chose to breastfeed for all the right reasons, the pressure to keep on breastfeeding if we are having a tough time is immense and although I am a firm believer that ‘breast is best’, most of us do not live in tribes surrounded by people to support us every minute of the day and take over and help if its painful, if they have tongue tie, if they are up all night with colic and you have a 2-year-old to deal with all day. Tiredness can break you!
We live in houses where one person normally goes off to work first thing in the morning and the other one is left alone to deal with it.
So maybe next time you are telling a mum who really WANTS to breastfeed that they should ‘keep on trying, because its best for baby’ even though they are in excruciating pain, tiredness and GUILT, you should think outside that tick box and think what’s best for mum.